What does therapy feel like?
All you need to get started is the desire to change your life, the readiness to face your problems, and the willingness to do some work. In the initial sessions, I will get to know your story, your personality, and your areas of strength and stress. Afterwards, you and I will identify goals for therapy and make a plan to help you grow. We will meet once a week in 50-minute sessions to build momentum in meeting your goals. As you gain new skills and resources in your life, then the sessions will be gradually spaced out until your goals are adequately met.
Why do you like to work with men?
I believe that I can help men work through their crises in a way that many other counselors cannot or will not. I believe men are the cornerstones of their families, for better or for worse. I want to help men be their best for themselves and for those who need them to be well.
Men have a special ability to create love or pain, joy or fear, security or insecurity. Men in pain will cause so much more pain in others, but men with healed hearts and minds will help many others be their best.
Men often want to be a success, but that is so elusive. Fortunately, success is not related to socio-economic status. Success ultimately comes down to a lifestyle of meaning, relationship, and gratitude, not financial status. A man’s significance is a better measurement of his success, and it is the inner life of a man that creates significance.
Men are made for meaning, and they earn that meaning through relationship and responsibility. But men must first receive love and then understand their worth. A man with a healed heart will help others, and that will help change the world. This I believe.
Since you work at a Christian counseling agency, do I need to have a Christian faith?
No. I welcome all people in all stages of life, walks of life, or philosophies of life. Wherever you may be in your journey of faith, there is a place for you here.
Personally, I hold a high view of both modern psychological theories and practices and ancient Christian principles and practices. The theory known as Christian Psychology explains that God is sovereign over and involved in all things in this world, including the realm of psychology and counseling.
Some clients prefer a distinctly Christian approach to therapy; others notsomuch. I will support the worldview of my clients. In other words, I incorporate Christianity into counseling sessions only according to the preference of the client. The ethic of counseling is to support clients, not to preach or evangelize in any way.